It seems like too much pressure. It seems like too much control by a loving God. I also think it often comes from a desire not to be responsible for such big decisions. Our tradition could be wrong. It probably is. In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul teaches many important things about marriage, divorce and remarriage. At the end, he talks about a man who is dating a lady who has never been married.
He ends up saying they can get married or they can choose to not get married. Then he talks about a lady whose husband died. Here is how he says it: If her husband dies, she is free to marry…. Now, what do you expect him to say next? To marry who? He says it quite differently. Here, read it slowly. It might stun you. This is what he wrote: If her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes , but he must belong to the Lord vs. Did you catch that? Then, just like Paul in his career strategies, God gives us choice.
After I first taught on this, my wife talked to me. And I feel better knowing she chose me, though she feels better thinking God chose us. God sometimes does speak clearly and specifically about things like marriage and our careers and what house to buy or where to go on vacation. I experience that a lot.
God speaks to me as I read the Bible.
He nudges me sometimes during the day. He gives me vision and clarity in the middle of the night.
He uses other people and circumstances. He lets me know how much money to give in my extra offering, he has prodded me to witness to a friend, and he speaks to me about what to write or speak. He sometimes gives me answers to big questions and helps me make big decisions. All of them are in my will. Choose whichever you like best.
It makes sense to me that God allows Rugged Christians choice. He made us smart, and by choosing we get smarter.
He gave us style and personality and taste, and by allowing us to choose, he lets us enjoy our preferences in our jobs, in our location, in our churches, in our friends, in our hobbies, in our styles of most everything. That is so loving. Is she nice? Do you like how she thinks? Do you think her laugh is cute? Could you enjoy looking at her each morning? She is a Christ-follower, you know. He is with me, guarding me, guiding me, giving me wisdom.
I think that is what the Psalmist had learned when he penned, Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart Psalm As a Rugged Christian, we must do the work to cultivate our relationship with God. We must study his Word to know his ways and his moral will. We must be willing to do whatever he tells us to do through his Word or the Holy Spirit.
We should always ask him if he has anything he wants to tell us about our decisions. We find ourselves paralyzed: unable to make choices about relationships, dating, marriage, money, family, and career.
First Kings describes a crucial moment of decision. If the Lord is God, follow him; but if Baal is God, follow him. They seem unable, or unwilling, to make a choice. They want to hedge their bets, sit on the fence, and keep their options open. How different are we in the 21st century? Would you prefer to make an ironclad, no-turning-back choice, or one you could back out of if need be?
Do you like to keep your smartphone switched on at all times, even in meetings, so that you are never fully present at any given moment?
God's Choices. Romans Not only that, but Rebekah's children had one and the same father, our father Isaac. Yet, before the twins were born or had. First we look at the choice God made between Esau and Jacob. Next we look at Paul’s analogy of the Potter and the clay. Paul uses the analogy in Isaiah of the potter and the clay (Isaiah , Romans ).
We reserve the right to keep our options open in every department of our lives, from sex to spirituality. In his book The Paradox of Choice , psychologist Barry Schwartz explains why we have trouble committing, why we love to keep our options open.
He says that as a culture we demand choice. We demand options. We imagine that more options mean more freedom. And most people think that limitless freedom must be a good option. The number of choices available to us becomes overwhelming, and actually makes it difficult for us to ever have the joy of fully committing to anything or anyone.
During a recent Starbucks visit, I stood behind a customer who ordered a decaf grande sugar-free vanilla nonfat latte with extra foam and the milk heated to degrees. As I stood in line, I actually started to think, Maybe I want degree coffee too. Maybe, I thought to myself, my choice of milk temperature up to this point has been catastrophically naive. Suddenly, his choices made me unhappier about my own. I began to covet. I became anxious and indecisive. Was this really freedom of choice, or slavery to it? What if we take the same multiplicity of trivial options we have at Starbucks, and apply them to bigger questions: where we should work, where we should study, where we should live, whom we should marry, or whom we should worship?
It seems that the more options we have, the more afraid we are of choosing. We become enslaved to being noncommittal.
In fact, we may become so fearful of making a choice, we simply refuse to choose. As we do that, we are worshiping an idol.
Allow Him to become part of your decision—making process and guarantee yourself a lifetime of success. People cannot ordain people to ministry; only God can. After seventeen years, Lindsey had been given a choice—relocate or look for other employment. The Christian Broadcasting Network. Peshkin describes the school as a " total institution ": a place where many similar people live by their own formal rules apart from outside society, as based on Erving Goffman 's essay. Call Store. Share on pinterest.
A false god. One of the Baals of our culture, in fact. Over the years, the Israelites had seen themselves delivered from slavery — repeatedly, spectacularly, and miraculously — by the living God. The Egyptian gods were powerless against him, as were the gods of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Amorites, the Perizzites, the Hivites, and the Jebusites.
Yet here they are in 1 Kings 18, their faces licking the dust before Baal, worshiping another soon-to-be-defeated god.
It should disgust us. Yet here we are, many of us, worshiping the very gods that Christ has triumphed over, when we know they are defeated gods, and will only drag us to our deaths if we cling to them. We worship the god of open options. And he is killing us. He kills our service to others because he tells us it might be better to keep our weekends to ourselves. He kills our giving because he tells us these are uncertain financial times and you never know when you might need that money.
What is most frightening of all about the god of open options is that you may not even know that you are worshiping him. Because he pretends not to be a god at all. In fact, he promises you freedom from all gods, all responsibilities. No commitment necessary.